Working Moms

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How many of us can relate to the image above when we are so burned out we feel we can’t do it anymore! Wether you work a fourty hour job, a part time job or you stay at home for me we all count as working moms. As a matter of fact I stayed home to at one point and I can honestly say its not as easy as people think it is. Once another mom told me at that time that she didn’t have the luxury of staying home like I did, oh I wanted to tell her off so bad, “Yes its a true luxury washing dishes, changing diapers, making bottles, doing laundry and making dinner etc… all day everyday for no pay no break and feeling like no one cares anyway. Also, the shaming behind it all I would have never believed its like its a sin to stay home with your kids everyone questions how you can afford it. Currently I am working about twenty-five hours a week and I love it I do feel I get the best of both worlds I get to spend time with my children do all the mom things help with homework, drive them to activities and get to any appointments they may have. At the same time I work out of the home for a couple of hours a week spend time with other adults and make a bit a money to help out my husband. My children love that I am home by the time they arrive from school. For us it has really worked out and it’s truly rewarding to be able to do both, for now I can’t imagine working a forty hour week at least not for few more years until my kids can be home alone I still have ways to go so for now I am enjoying it the way it is. Supporting others mom is something we should all do, respecting that we all have our own way of raising children. Also, realizing that everyone has different needs some moms truly are passionate about there careers and can’t imagine staying home and other can’t afford it! Thank You! For taking the time to read this and please share with me what works for you and your family?

For Better or Worse🤵🏻👰🏻🥂

              We have been married since 2006 and it has been a roller coaster with many ups and downs but here we are I hope to come back in 12 more years and write another post about marriage after 24 years of marriage, but this is what I have for now enjoy!! Now sometime’s it feels more like worse then better, Marriage has so many ups and downs and trying to maneuver everything gets a bit hard sometimes. Being married isn’t a walk in the park well the first few years are like walking in the clouds ☁️ with Prince Charming 😂 NOT, I have to say even though things change so much after kids come into the picture the first year was difficult for me. I had never lived away from my family and wasn’t used to all the responsibilities of paying rent bills etc….., and dating for a couple of years and actually living together is totally different. Once you are married you can’t just walk away so easily and go home after an argument, when your dating you can just go home and not have to deal with it if you don’t want to. Realizing that its a forever comenment is something that doesn’t sink in right away either once that Wedding day is over its like so now what!!  But I guess nothing compares to three children running around with different needs after 12 years of marriage. I do have to say that they have gone by so fast even though we have had our share of problems it still seems like it was just yesterday we were at the alter saying our I DOs. You don’t really realize how fast goes by until you get older for me I feel since we became parents years just go by faster and faster. It is very difficult to have time just the hubby and me,I miss those moments a lot just me and him I don’t mean to sound selfish but kiddos do take up most if not all our time. Recently I went through a really bad depression which I plan on talking about more in future post, this depression I am still recovering from made me realize, how much we take each other for granted how are lives have become a go go go, and its all about getting things done. Realizing we need to sit back and take a moment to apprieciate the little things and each other and take the time to at least ask each other how are day was. One thing for sure, is that I forget who I was before my children… it almost feels like I have almost been a Mom its like I have to remind myself that I am my own individual person and my husband too he was his own person he hasn’t always been Daddy, its crazy how you do forget. What works for us until now is just trying our best to never go to bed upset, we have a couple of times and I just had such a hard time sleeping and getting ready being upset with my Husband puts me in a mood,   I feel strange so I guess for now that is one of the things I tell people who plan one going on this journey of

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being married.

            Try to write to each other, when we first got married I would write him notes and leave on the table at night for him to see in the morning before he went off to work, now I don’t have much time for that but I do try to send him a text at least with a Good Morning and I love you, at least a couple times a week. Take time out for just each other for me its gotten super hard with the three kids sitters are super expensive, but we try to once in awhile drop off at the grandparents and go out for dinner or come home and watch a movie. Sometime even going grocery shopping with out the kids seems like a “DATE” as crazy at it sounds. Also, we are still that couple that tries to hold hands as much as we can, intamacy is super important not only SEX people but hugging, kissing, cuddling during a movie and holding hands. I have always loved seeing couples who have been married for many years still holding hands I think it’s the sweetest thing. Always saying thanking you to each other, for everything I have alot to thank my Hubby for he works so hard for our family and has made it work so I don’t have to work full time, so I can be home with our children more.

            ” Last, don’t forget that you got married to each other and as harsh as this sounds our children were given to us so we can form them and they will fly away one day to form there own lives so try your best, to always remeber this”

     I would love to hear all the love stories out there, please share with us your journey as a marriage with children or without.

              I dedicate this to my Husband Carlos ,  thank you for all you do for our family!!!!

 

 

 

 

Vacation 🇨🇦

Hello!! A quick recap of our spring break vacation to Canada! We had a great time we stayed at the Skyline Hotel & Waterpark, the kids loved the Waterpark we spent two whole days at the water park they enjoyed the wave pool and water slides. At night there is plenty to do many shops and entertainment around. It’s a fithteen walk from Niagara Falls, plenty of shops and dining close. I would definitely recommend Fallsview Restaurant great view of then Falls. We took a ride on the Sky Wheel the kids loved it great views of surroundings we loved looking at the mini golf with dinosaurs around, also looking at Niagara Falls at night is pretty cool they are different color lights. We spent half a day in Toronto walking by the lake, we had dinner at Copacabana Brazilian Steakhouse very very good but pricey it’s about $50 per person but it’s buffet style and all the different types of meats you want to try. Hope you enjoyed my quick recap of our spring break 2019 vacation. Check out some of the pictures 📸⬇️

Family Vacay

My Spring break Vacation is coming this week we are heading to Canada 🇨🇦!! We are super excited about this trip my husband and I have never been and can’t wait to share this with you all! One thing I am not super excited about is we are driving 🚙 it will be about a 9 hour drive for us and with three kids we are hoping we don’t end up regretting it 😂 we plan on driving all night so they hopefully sleep and we won’t have to stop a lot on the way. We never planned for a vacation to Canada we were planning on a weekend at a local Waterpark with our kids, but browsing on Groupon.com I found an awesome deal and had to go for it! We will be spending four nights at a hotel & Waterpark so of course the kids are super excited!! Look for a blog this coming week for photos on our trip!! I will not post anything Wednesday, so look for a post on Saturday so keep an eye for my family vacation Review!!

Morning Chaos!!

Ooh here we go again another crazy morning full of chaos and melt downs, my morning usually start at 6:30 a.m trying to get my face washed, my teeth clean and maybe some type of exercise before my three little monkeys wake up. I used get up at the same time the kids woke up and found that was a bit nuts because I felt so rushed and never had time to do anything for myself. My therapist suggested I try to wake at least a half hour before my kids to do what I need to do she said this will help you have a smoother morning well it’s defiantly not a smooth morning every morning but, it does help especially when I get time to do some yoga or get a 15 minute walk on the tread mill. If I can get my make up done and make my bed before the kids wake up its an accomplishment and it feels good o the little things. By 7 a.m one of the kids is usually up and if not it gives me a bit more time at least to get my coffee ready and maybe watch a bit of T.V which I don’t do much of anymore well at least not grown up shows its all about cartoons or kids movies ask me how many times i have watched Incredibles 2 or Boss Baby about a thousand times a week 😆, I think I know every word to these movies by now and Frozen of course never gets old came out when my oldest was 3 years old and now my youngest who is 2 years old loves it especially Olaf.

By 7:30 all three of my kids are usually up on some days my little one will sleep in closer to 8 a.m, so here it goes breakfast time o how I dread to ask what they want, my kids don’t really care for just cereal or yogurt in the morning they want pancakes, French toast, toast, eggs, bacon, and fruit. I do love that they like a nice hearty breakfast but some days i wish they would just take a bowl of cereal and make it a morning. I have learned not to always give them a choice so Iwill tell them today we are having toast, fruit and cottage cheese for example instead of letting pick all the time.

Breakfast is never breakfast without a spill or somebody complaining about something so important like I don’t like the color of the cup my milk is in or why does she have more then me or i don’t like this when clearly two days ago you gave them the same thing and they ate it with no problem. I have tried to have a morning routine I would like for them to get up brush teeth and get dressed before heading downstairs for breakfast but apparently this sooooo hard to do everyday. It works on some days but on others it just depends on who is in what mood. I can probably go on and on about our mornings I would love to hear about your mornings and what works for you family

Around Town

Hello, ever wonder what to do with the kiddos for fun wether it’s just to spend time together as a family, play date with friends or a birthday party!! Well I found an awesome place in town and I am so glad I did The Painting 🎨 Camp, about a month ago my daughter was invited to a friends birthday 🎂 🎁 party at the Painting Camp. She fell in love with this place it’s full of fun figures, princess characters, unicorns my daughter favorite right now and mugs, jewelry and boxes etc……, the list can go on forever! The place is super welcoming and the staff very helpful. Jin Duan the owner of the The Painting Camp opened in 2018 and has been open for seven months she is a Business Major, and took the leap in opening her own business. She loves painting and her inspiration was “Color me Mine” the pottery shop, that she absolutely loves. Jin felt she wanted a similar business that was at a more accessible price point for families to be able to afford, to bring there children to a place they could be inpired and creative that wouldn’t break there budget. It’s a great place to spend an afternoon painting not only for families with children but great for a girls night out with friends. Jin is also a mother to beautiful baby girl who is eight months old she is looking forward to seeing her daughter grow as well as her business. Jin looks forward to the day her daughter can come and start painting and making her own memories at her mothers business. The Painting 🎨 Camp is located in Bolingbrook, Illinois minutes from the Promenade Mall.

Book your next Birthday Party!! 🎨🎈 🎂

Walk Ins Welcome!!Open Monday-Sunday (hours vary, check on Google)

The Painting 🎨 Camp

514 E Boughton Road

Bolingbrook IL 60440

Email: info@thepaintingcamp.com

Phone: 1-630-410-8579

Screen Time & Kids📱🖥

If your home is anything like mine I am sure you will be able to relate, the on going war between you and your children about time one the screen. The problem now isn’t what we lived as children growing up in the early 90s seems like light years away when it comes to technology. In my home there were six people my parents and the four of us kids there where two TVs , One land line with two phones and a Radio to play CDs/Cassette this was our technology. When my husband and I talk to our children about this they look at us like if we were dinosaurs and it was millions of years back. My son said to me Omg mommy no internet what did you do all day, my daughter has said she is thankful she wasn’t born in the other century which makes me feels super old. My husband and I try to talk about the way we grew up as often as we can, we explain to them how we spent most of our childhood outdoors playing hide and seek, ding dong ditch lol, jumping rope, riding bikes or just enjoying a snack with our friends in our back yard.

When it comes to scheduling screen time it sounds ideal to have set days they can use it, but now we run into this problem both of our TVs in our home are Smart so this means they can still watch the dumb videos on YouTube sorry if I offended anyone but some of these videos have no point to them and are not even close to being educational. So when we say no tablet, computer, no using our phones (our kids don’t have cells yet hope to keep this way for a while) we also have to add no YouTube on the Tv, luckily I have the YouTube linked to my cell so I can see when there watching and the history and, what they have watched in the past. Oh! and now I have to add no Nintendo Switch since they got this for Christmas but honestly I would rather them play a game on the switch for 30 minutes then spend 30 minutes watching a video that has no meaning or educational background. At least with he switch they get up and move my daughter has the Just Dance, and it motivates you to exercise a bit.

So the question is how do you control all these devices the only way we have found works for our family is letting them know they may only use tablets, cells, and computers only every other day and Sunday is no screen day except tv since this is the day we may get together to play on the switch or watch a good movie as a family. The every other day thing actually does work and they can’t use anything until after dinner and homework is done. If they mis behaving or something goes on in school that we feel is a problem we will take away the screen time anywhere from 2-5 days, we let them know screen time is a privilege if you mis behaving at home or school there will be a consequence.This has worked for our family I have consider making a chart so the kiddos can have a visual and so my little 2 year old can understand even though he doesn’t really care for screen time right now he would rather destroy my house or write on walls. I do have to add that I wish more apps added screen time limits like YouTube kids I do like that I get to chose how long my child can watch and the screen will just turn off on its own. So if any of you who read this make apps for children especially ages 2-12 years please add a timer for parents to adjust. Would love to here what works for your family!

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